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January 18, 2013
the poet who writes letters / the letter-writer who writes poems
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February 11, 2010
What Freedom?
Posted by gritsforyou under Gay/Gender Issues, LGBT, Politics, Social Justice | Tags: DADT, Don't Ask Don't Tell, gay rights, Israel, LGBT, Military |Leave a Comment
A friend directed me to this Newsweek article by a gay Israeli solider.
It was fitting timing, really, since this morning I found a new Facebook group called “1,000,000 people who know the state’s permission isn’t needed for marriage” and became enraged when I read their brilliant solution: All you need is a few witnesses and call it a common law marriage. Listen, I’m all for the symbolic meaning for marriage as much as the next romantic sap, but we’re dealing with messy bureaucratic red tape here.
While I appreciate the sentiment, it doesn’t exactly hold weight in a courtroom, a hospital, or when signing adoption papers. A even when we think we have the legal circus figured out, we manage to find some situation where we don’t have the right paperwork and things go terribly awry. While our straight counterparts fly through the system with the greatest of ease, we have to constantly manuveur and jump through hoops.
So when I read Yoni Schoenfeld’s article, this passage struck a particular chord:
“As Israelis, we are taught from a young age to admire the United States. The American dream offers an alternative to the somewhat harsh reality of life in the Middle East. But that dream has been betrayed by the “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy that governs gay and lesbian service in the U.S. military.”
As you may or may not know, Israel does not have a Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy in their military. And while gay marriage is not legal in Israel, at this point, I wouldn’t be surprised if they beat us to it. (Along with Mexico City, Portgual, and South Africa, thank you very much.) And at the very least, each person in the country is given the opportunity to serve in the military, without fear of being outed and discharged. The only fear that should prevade in combat is the fear of death or injury – not who the guy or girl next to you is screwing.
The observation has been made that the cruel irony is that our government has towed the great freedom of democracy line all over Iraq and yet, some of our soliders serve there with that fear of being outed and kicked out. Personally, I would never volunteer for service, particularly in this climate, but each person should be able to make his or her own choice.
After all, isn’t that we claim to the rest of the world?
December 9, 2009
October 24, 2009
HIV or Health Insurance?
Posted by gritsforyou under Politics, Social Justice, Women's Issues | Tags: health care, rape, social injustice, Social Justice, women |1 Comment
It’s not even close to a fair choice. There is a new dimension to the health care debates — taking HIV medications as a precaution after rape apparently gets you docked for a pre-existing condition. Yeah, if this woman hadn’t, she may have developed the actual virus and then where the hell would she get coverage? All I can say is WTF?
READ THIS IMMEDIATELY.
We should send this to every punk in Congress who’s fighting Obama on change.
October 13, 2009
A Ghostly Comparison to Your Tolerance…
Posted by gritsforyou under Gay/Gender Issues, Gender issues, LGBT, Politics, Relationships, Uncategorized | Tags: DADT, gay marriage, gay rights, LGBT, The Daily Dish blog |[2] Comments
An email I wrote to Andrew Sullivan, following the posting of his “Dissent of the Day,” 10/13/09.
Wow, heterosexual love can produce a universe?
I had no idea. From the way I understand it, heterosexual sex sometimes, but not always, produces a child. Hunky dory for you.
Maybe I’m just a little oversensitive about some anonymous person calling my love a “ghostly comparison” to theirs. Maybe I’m finally coming into (or returning to) my angry dyke phase. Maybe I’ve just read far too many comments like your reader’s. But I am sick and tired of this pissing contest. It’s the origin of every argument against gay marriage, DADT, and gay rights in general. It’s the concept that there is only one absolute in life and if you don’t abide by it, you’re a second-class, subhuman being.
And what if being gay were a choice? (And personally, for me, I think it’s a combination of several factors, so choice may be involved.) I don’t know if it is, but I do know I choose to be with the woman I love and she chooses to be with me. We choose to support and take care of one another, to help realize each other’s dreams. So if that commitment is somehow “beneath” the heterosexual model, well then I’m happy to choose it.
By the way, you know what else a sperm and an egg produce? Gay people.
September 27, 2009
10 Signs You Know You’re in a Fancy Restaurant
Posted by gritsforyou under Humor, New York | Tags: dining, Humor, New York, restaurants, upscale restaurants |Leave a Comment
Apologies for the hiatus! I’ve been making excuses again. But, seeing as how all other forms of writing are back on the horizon for me, I figured blogging could squeeze its way into my schedule as well.
Here is a little something to satisfy your palates – literally. I realized with all the wining and dining I do in New York, it was high time I wrote some commentary on the subject.
This is a list that I started after a dinner at the West Bank Cafe, located at 42nd and 9th.
Enjoy!
1. The bathroom stalls have floor-to-ceiling length doors and sinks that look like bowls of pottery.
2. There is at least one item on the entree list that is in a foreign language – even if the restaurant is not ethic.
3. The “pre-meal” item does not consist of bread.
4. Sorbet is served between courses to “cleanse” the palate. We all know it’s served just because it tastes amazing.
5. The cognac list is as long (if not longer) than the regular dessert list.
6. Gratuity is automatically added to your bill regardless of party size.
7. The waiter is incredibly skilled at opening bottles of wine – you’re not sure, but you think you just saw him do it one-handed.
8. You don’t get a choice of salad dressing and there are no croutons.
9. There are no children in sight. If there are, they have napkins neatly folded in their shirts.
10. You know it’s going to be a night you’re everywhere you want to be – VISA is in your back pocket.
September 18, 2009
The Pride of Jersey
Posted by gritsforyou under Gay/Gender Issues, LGBT, Politics | Tags: gay marriage, New Jersey, Politics |Leave a Comment
You can take the girl outta Jersey, but you can’t take Jersey outta the girl.
http://www.advocate.com/News/Daily_News/2009/09/15/Corzine__NJ_Gay_Marriage_This_Year/
Granted, my homestate is a bloody mess in almost every other respect, but it’s nice to know the governor cares about marriage equality – even if, in true political fashion, he’s using it for votes. Civil unions yesterday, marriage tomorrow.
August 7, 2009
Not just gay, but human.
Posted by gritsforyou under Gay/Gender Issues, LGBT, Love, Relationships | Tags: gay marriage, hopsital stays, LGBT, medical power of attorney |Leave a Comment
As I take in the glory that is Queer as Folk, I’ve been making a mental list in my head of things I want to discuss in a future blog. (Almost at the end of Season 4- one more season to go!) Last night’s episodes particularly had me reeling from the characters’ painful dilemmas. And that’s when I got to thinking – I wish people would see us, our lives as not just gay, but human.
Then I stumbled across this article. The writer, Jon Rauch relays a personal essay about his cousin and his cousin’s partner during a tulmultous hospital ordeal. Rauch sticks it to the conservatives by posing (over and over and over again), “If gays aren’t allowed to get married, then what CAN they do?” which of course, exposes a larger problem in Republican politics: they don’t offer any alternatives to gays.
Thank you, Andrew Sullivan for continuing to post pieces about the hopeful future we should look to. No one is going backwards anymore.
July 25, 2009
Gay sightings in Canada
Posted by gritsforyou under Canada, Gay/Gender Issues, Travel | Tags: Canada, Gay/Gender Issues, LGBT, Travel, Vacation |Leave a Comment
Last week, I went on a cruise to St. John, New Brunswick and Halifax, Nova Scotia. While in the quaint port town of St. John, I stumbled across this posting outside of a bar:

There isn't a caption to do this justice.
Meanwhile, in Halifax, Nova Scotia I found a more sobering message:

Gotta love those Canadian churches.
I was touched by both sightings for different reasons. But the one commonality? It made me remember why I love traveling, especially outside of the US. It’s the reason why people like Bush could never understand what life is like in other countries — because they had never bothered to investigate. And you could argue that Canada isn’t all that “foreign,” just our neighbor to the north. Well, if that’s true – then why don’t I find more church signs like St. Matthew’s in the US instead the “Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve” lot? (No joke – I actually saw one of these on a highway in Delaware several years ago.) It may be a minor thing to some, but I believe what an outsider observes is powerfully revealing. I wonder what those Canadians think when they cross the border….